Marriage Hassles!!

Today three of my friends are getting married. Am I happy for them? Hell yeah! I am so damn happy! But the moment someone hears it, the next statement that stumbles out of their mouth is, "Now get yourself a husband too..." OMG! No!

I am happy for all the people getting married but that doesn't mean that I want to right now. More over, married to whom? There should be a person that I want to get married to, right! But no, the Indian society supposedly doesn't work that way. "You are of age"- they say. What age? People start their career at 40. What age!

An Indian household goes through a complete change once the daughter of the household steps on to her twenties. Suddenly the "oh so independent" parents, who have till then supported and rooted for their daughter's equality and position in life, suddenly turns and starts stressing more on how it is important to have some one else to take care. Why do we need someone else to take care, we are capable. You have brought us up to be independent then why can't we take care of ourselves if we want to?

And God forbid if by chance you have stepped to the dangerous age of above 26! To top that up you say that you are busy with or perhaps still settling your career! O my poor friend you have invited trouble. Suddenly the same parents and well wishers who were praising you for being so keen on having a career suddenly shift stands and says ". But career isn't everything!" But what I fail to understand is that who is saying career is everything here? I am not. But it is important to me and I want it to be important too. And another question, is marriage then everything? What's the harm in being single till you find the right person!

Right person- now this is a term which has become a joke for me since my mother had started looking for grooms for me from the different matrimonial sites! Everybody claims that He is the right person. The write ups are hilarious! First of all bongs who are not fluent in English trying to write about themselves in English make hell of a laughing stock. 

This profile belongs to a guy who has a Phd degree and then says the last line.
"THOSE WHO ARE SERIOUS GIVE ME A TOUCH........."

It becomes hilarious to even go through the profiles. But one thing that hit me very hard during the initial days of this ridiculous thing was the fact that how still society looks at women.

I being a modern girl and being brought up in an urban setup thought the society have changed a bit at least but I was proven completely wrong once I started going through the profiles and the column where they write what they desire in a bride. Somehow the words that kept recurring were "Homely, conventional, beautiful, fair." Is that all society looks for in a woman. If I seriously posses these few traits would I be a perfect human being? It was very demoralizing to think, where I was working my ass to get a proper place in this society, this society thought and expected so less from me!

More irritating perhaps are the friends who completely go through a marriage mental shift. The moment they land up married suddenly they gain all knowledge of the world and starts pestering you to get married too. Why?! It was only few months back that even they were complaining about their parents pestering them to get married!

I am on the verge of thirty and I have nothing against getting married. I want to get married. To a person I am in love with. With whom I feel I want to spend my life with. Not with some random guy that I don't know. And if this society doesn't accept me this way....well they can go F@*k themselves!